Don’t piss off a perimenopausal woman. Let me tell you why

perimenopausal signs

I’m a little riled up. Let me explain.

I was watching someone’s Instagram stories, when they started giving advice on perimenopause, and which foods, supplements etc help alleviate symptoms. Don’t get me wrong, I love shared advice.

But what upsets me is that this person hasn’t even gone through perimenopause – far from it.

They don’t know what it feels like, how harrowing and confusing it can be. My advice is to talk to woman going through it. Get shared advice, because the ‘one size fits all’ approach doesn’t work.

As a community at 50 So What we can help each other, which is what I love about this site and our social media platforms.

While I appreciate this ‘expert’ trying to help, and she does have a point about diet, but how about talking to woman going through perimenopause or menopause? There is so much more involved, like our mental health and happiness.

It’s not simple, it’s complicated and women are at their most vulnerable.

This is a serious topic that needs serious attention. With love and respect for my fellow perimenopausal and menopausal ladies, we should be treated with responsibility and more respect.

We deserve more. Talk to us, we’ll be happy to help and share what has worked for us.

I’ve had so much amazing advice from our 50sowhat community, real advice from incredible woman sharing what’s worked for them, that’s the advice I love. It may not work from me, but it’s advice given from experience.

Why is it, the more Instagram followers someone has, the more (some of them, not all) believe they are the expert of everything?

What I find a tad frustrating and a little dangerous is that these people are not qualified to give advice. It’s fine to share what’s worked for you, but come on, it’s time to stop believing your own bullshit, because someone may get hurt.

If you are being paid to advertise a product, that’s fine, be transparent, we understand people have to make a buck.

BUT, if you are an advertiser, do not get someone who is not in the target audience of your product to promote it.

So long story short, if you want to dish out advice to us perimenopausal and menopausal women about what works, just make sure you’ve been through it, or are going through it, and what you are giving us advice about has actually worked for you.

We deserve respect.

The co-founder of 50SoWhat has been in publishing for most of her working life. She was general manager of successful boutique media publishing house in New Zealand for several years and boasts an impeccable sales, marketing and management background. When she’s not road-testing the latest cosmetic procedures, or investigating the hottest lifestyle, travel, fashion and beauty trends for over 45’s, Jo is often back home catching up with family and friends, or working on her golf swing!


  1. Totally agree. I say, keep it real and honest, we are intelligent readers who can spot an ‘untruth’ from a mile away…we all experience things differently, just be honest as one size does not fit us all.


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